Trading "Better" for "Brighter

Just like that I have turned 30 recently

Honestly, it doesn't feel like a finish line; it feels more like a wide open door.

Looking back at my 20s, so much has shifted, but I’m kind of moved by the things that stayed the same. I am still that person who carries a book everywhere it’s like a little portable sanctuary tucked in my bag. I’m still the person constantly multitasking, trying to weave a hundred different threads of life together at once. And despite the chaos of it all, I’m just really grateful.

But I’m noticing a shift in how I want to live.

I think for a long time, I treated my habits like herbal supplements things I only did to "fix" myself or get a specific result. I was always trying to optimize my life like it was a science project.

In this new decade, I’m done with that. I don't want my habits to be medicinal anymore. I just want them to be mine. I want to focus on four simple things: love, focus, growth, and slow living.

I’m still going to have a book in my bag. I’m still going to be doing three things at once sometimes. But the goal isn’t to be "better" anymore. It’s just to be present. I’m learning to stretch toward the light at my own pace, without the pressure of a deadline.

Leaving the "Herbal" Life

We spend so much time treating our habits like herbal supplements things we swallow just to fix a deficiency or optimize a result. We track our steps, our sleep, and our intake until our lives feel like a science experiment.

I’m tired of being a project to be solved.

I want my habits to be less about "fixing" and more about being. For myself, and for this space, I am choosing four pillars:

• Love: Acting from a place of connection rather than obligation.

• Focus: Giving my full attention to what deserves it, not what demands it.

• Growth: Stretching toward the light, like a plant, without the pressure of a deadline.

• Slow Living: Finding the pulse of a day and walking alongside it, rather than racing against it.

The Next Ten Years

I’m no longer running toward a "better" version of me. I’m just walking slowly, with focus and love into the life I already have 💗

My toddler is currently reminding me that "slow living" is a work in progress & it’s diaper change time! Let me know your thoughts in the comments. I'll be back soon 💗